Is Ego Is In The Way Of Your Success?

Is ego in the way of your success? It was for me. Having a business partner who is your husband is quite a challenge but can be very rewarding to work with your spouse once your hurdles are overcome. If you are wanting to successful in your business and perhaps with your spouse this may be the answer you are looking for.

In the beginning, when my husband and I started working together we shared the responsibilities as equally as we could and had a heck of a time getting past egos. It wasn't my husband's ego I had to get past, it was my own!

I am currently reading the book by Eckhart Tolle, "A New Earth Awakening to Your Life's Purpose." and as usual an idea pops into my head about the evolution of myself towards letting go of ego.

For me, when I worked with my husband and we shared the tasks, we stepped all over each other. We expected each other to understand or read each other's minds as to what was the next step. All kinds of chaos was the result. My ego was my problem for sure. All my husband's advice was taken as insulting so I was on the defensive side. I was looking at my past performances as a guide to my future and so far at that point, I had never ran a business only followed others. I had low self-esteem in myself when it came to the business, however I really felt a strong urge to keep going thankfully.

It was my ego in control now when I am reflecting back on the whole situation. So how do you get ego out of the way when working with your spouse? It didn't happen over night that is for sure, but I kept asking for wisdom and guidance to help me with ego. I journalled about it everyday and all of a sudden it hit me. When a situation came up and my husband shared with me his advice I understood that this is the answer! Eureka. The widsom and guidance was not showing up in a book or going to pop into my head, it was coming from him. I remember a time when after talking with someone who was on the fence about making a decision, Warren said to me that "ask what does that mean to you?" So of course in about two days' time or perhaps even the very next day I again was talking to someone else who was on the fence. I had an opportunity to learn so this time I said what my husband had told me and I asked what does that mean to him. This guy ended up sharing with me his concerns, which is exactly the response I was looking for. So the answers from my husband was the guidance all along, his guidance was heartfelt and not coming to me from ego.

When you receive other people's advice is it coming from their heart or their ego? Are you in ego state when you receive it and therefore not open to learning. For me, allowing in my true self and focusing on that allowed my ego to hang out and see how much better my life flows. I constantly think of myself in the now or remind myself in as many moments in the day as possible that I am not my ego I am much more than that. It takes effort, but you will get there, perhaps sooner than you think.

The awareness is the key. When I realized that ego was in command then of course I am going to get those old results I had in the past. Ego will always be there, for I cannot stop being Michelle, but I can relax about Michelle and let a more bigger aspect of me be my guide. The answers come from all different sources, so keep looking and finding them everyday.