Is Happiness A Choice?

Is happiness a choice? Can you choose happiness?

You can be in control once you realize that your thoughts and only your thoughts is the only thing on earth you have complete control over. It is impossible to control the thoughts of anyone else. If you asked 50 people who know you what there thoughts were of you as an example, you would get 50 different responses to that question. Everyone's own thoughts are their own.

So now you are aware that thoughts are your own and you can control what you are thinking. By thinking positively in stressful moments, leaders are born. You feel victory after the moment because you stayed positive.

When you think a thought in direct result of present circumstances you are only reacting and not in control. But regardless of the circumstance you are in, if you find a positive thought you are no longer reacting, you are creating a new opportunity for the future. Positive thoughts to the current situation is prepaving for the future.

So by thinking thoughts for future moments you are believing in yourself. From this vantage point, your positive thoughts will reflect forward into your future and when the future becomes the present moment, it is much easier to be happy because the future is one of positive choices.

However, it should be taught to everyone that by reacting negatively only to the present moment you are not creating positive results for future moments. A negative feeling involkes more negative results. STOP the cycle. Realize that at every moment of your day you can choose how you REACT to your present circumstances.

I agree it is impossible to go from depression to JOY in one fell swoop, but you can choose a better feeling emotion once you realize you are in control. You can go from depression to anger and actually start to feel better. But don't linger there too long. Once you feel a little better, think of a solution, and don't beat yourself up. There have been so many other people who have gone through the same situations you have and have made it. You can too.

Recognize when you feel angry to find a better feeling thought. Perhaps it may be revenge, which may help you feel a little bit better. Then from that state, move to a better feeling emotion. After revenge, you may feel hopeful. After feeling hopeful for awhile you may feel belief and by focusing on what you are thinking you can find a solution because now you have belief.

AWARENESS: Just being aware of how thoughts you think right now will bring into your future moments the results you are currently processing. So be careful or mindful of what your present state of thinking is as those negative thoughts prepave your future.

Don't judge yourself too harshly. In fact, from this point on erase your mistakes by pressing the RESET button and say from now on you will think only better feeling thoughts.

Some helpful hints of feeling better is if you can get outside and spend at least 5 minutes and feel the wind, the sun or smell the freshness of outdoors just to help you feel better and relax. Music can be uplifting as well as reading or doing an activity which pleases you. The distraction takes the drama out of life and allows you to focus once again on feeling good.

Happiness is a choice. Reread this blog and always feel good about you. Email Michelle Wojnowski at Michelle@InspiredAbundance.com for the complete works of the 7 Steps to Happiness e-course.