Is Ego Is In The Way Of Your Success?

Is ego in the way of your success? It was for me. Having a business partner who is your husband is quite a challenge but can be very rewarding to work with your spouse once your hurdles are overcome. If you are wanting to successful in your business and perhaps with your spouse this may be the answer you are looking for.

In the beginning, when my husband and I started working together we shared the responsibilities as equally as we could and had a heck of a time getting past egos. It wasn't my husband's ego I had to get past, it was my own!

I am currently reading the book by Eckhart Tolle, "A New Earth Awakening to Your Life's Purpose." and as usual an idea pops into my head about the evolution of myself towards letting go of ego.

For me, when I worked with my husband and we shared the tasks, we stepped all over each other. We expected each other to understand or read each other's minds as to what was the next step. All kinds of chaos was the result. My ego was my problem for sure. All my husband's advice was taken as insulting so I was on the defensive side. I was looking at my past performances as a guide to my future and so far at that point, I had never ran a business only followed others. I had low self-esteem in myself when it came to the business, however I really felt a strong urge to keep going thankfully.

It was my ego in control now when I am reflecting back on the whole situation. So how do you get ego out of the way when working with your spouse? It didn't happen over night that is for sure, but I kept asking for wisdom and guidance to help me with ego. I journalled about it everyday and all of a sudden it hit me. When a situation came up and my husband shared with me his advice I understood that this is the answer! Eureka. The widsom and guidance was not showing up in a book or going to pop into my head, it was coming from him. I remember a time when after talking with someone who was on the fence about making a decision, Warren said to me that "ask what does that mean to you?" So of course in about two days' time or perhaps even the very next day I again was talking to someone else who was on the fence. I had an opportunity to learn so this time I said what my husband had told me and I asked what does that mean to him. This guy ended up sharing with me his concerns, which is exactly the response I was looking for. So the answers from my husband was the guidance all along, his guidance was heartfelt and not coming to me from ego.

When you receive other people's advice is it coming from their heart or their ego? Are you in ego state when you receive it and therefore not open to learning. For me, allowing in my true self and focusing on that allowed my ego to hang out and see how much better my life flows. I constantly think of myself in the now or remind myself in as many moments in the day as possible that I am not my ego I am much more than that. It takes effort, but you will get there, perhaps sooner than you think.

The awareness is the key. When I realized that ego was in command then of course I am going to get those old results I had in the past. Ego will always be there, for I cannot stop being Michelle, but I can relax about Michelle and let a more bigger aspect of me be my guide. The answers come from all different sources, so keep looking and finding them everyday.

Power Of Focusing On Your Goals And How To Achieve Them

The 2008 Summer Olympics in Beijing was a great time for me to understand more about the POWER we each have to focus and accomplish goals. Goal setting is vital to each and every one of those athletes as well as to each one of us.

Most people do not really believe that setting goals work or that they can accomplish them. So perhaps you need to set for yourself a small goal and see your level of belief grow. See for yourself the power of setting goals and the feeling you get when you do. Once you have the feeling of accomplishment you can memorize that feeling to assist you in achieving the next one and the next one. That is all.

Each week I speak with people who focus on failing instead of winning. Every one of us can start to notice our accomplishments not failures and start to notice how things always work out for us once we start to focus on our successes. Ever notice that the better it gets the better it gets? Ever notice how when you feel so good it doesn't matter the little things, for they don't really matter. This is law of attraction responding to your feelings. Notice it more and more each day. Start to notice how you change your feelings from negative to positive and then your results willl show things around you start to improve also from negative to positive. Whatever you notice whatever you focus on will grow by your attention to it.

Now getting back to the Olympics, I was watching olympic athletes running towards the finish line and I noticed that the runner who won had her eyes focused at one point, not looking around, focused on one thing. I am sure we all can guess a similar goal this winner had - focused on being first to cross the finish line, which she did. Her eyes did not dart sideways as she passed her competitor. She had her eyes focused forward - perhaps visualizing herself crossing the line while she was running.

I remember a goal I had about receiving an award. I rehearsed myself walking up to that stage over and over again day after day. That is the work I did first before I took action each day. I never took my eye off my goal, MY AWARD. By the time I DID WIN the award I felt like it was deja vu - for I lived it for six months in my head!

Your habit to win is to ALWAYS to focus on your goal and not be comparing yourself to others, for that will take you out of the race. Not to judge yourself by comparing yourself to others. That also is a habit you can let go of. Not force it, just release. Just allow yourself to focus on your goals and not be looking around for approval of others or noticing things you don't want.

Now that you have the awareness of FOCUS and the POWER you get as a result of Law of Attraction, start to memorize these feelings and soon accomplishing your goals can be just a matter of time. Be good to yourself and never judge. Allow yourself to achieve your success.

I welcome your comments and questions. Contact me at Michelle@InspiredAbundance.com

Personal Development Can Be Expanded By Changing Your Perspective

The power of changing your perspective is beneficial to your personal development. I have a recent story that happened to me I wish to share to help you understand this concept.

I recently went out to the garden to gather up some peas. At first glance, I was looking at three rows of peas and could not see a single pod to pick! I am sure some of you at least have had this experience or can find a similar analogy.

So anyway, determined to have some peas I walk up and down the row. Finally I spot some, but they were not fully formed or not ready to be picked yet, maybe in a few more days, sigh. However, I walked up and down the row and something transformational happened. You see I started to focus better my eyesight or my vision of what my goal was.

When you first come across a row of pea plants you see a wall of green. The wall can be shoulder high even and lots of green leaves. You may notice flowers first because of the color difference but you have to adjust your eyesight and concentrate, perhaps start to walk slower and scan all around. At last I started to find pea pods that were just the right size. I knew they were there but honestly at first glance you couldn't see any at all! I sometimes had to push the leaves around to penetrate the foliage and there perhaps may be a pea pod or two undiscovered. Or I just bent down and looked up from knee level and could see them much clearer and in abundance!

The point of this reference is that you too can change your perspective and find abundance too. Just perhaps look at it differently, slow yourself down, or get down at a lower level to see it all that is hidden and waiting just for you. Sometimes we rush around and too impatient and all too eager to dismiss the obvious.

I am sure you have heard of the old wise man sitting on top of a mountain story. I find that he is there to remind us about mental clarity. We are a society which is demanding instant gratification and not in the process to get there. In order to help you experience more out of life both financial and personally, pause as often as you can. Just ponder even for a 2 second grace period so you can develop the habit of getting the BEST perspective of life you can.

Meditation too is also a way of changing your perspective, but for now be open to learning how to change your perspective.

This life has so much all around us to really appreciate and can certainly provide a bounty for you. Be open to looking at things from different vantage points. They always say that you should put yourself into the other persons's shoes for instance. Take the time to sit and quiet yourself, not always do things the same and perhaps in no time at all you will start to see what has been there all along. Just change your perspective.

Prosperity Consciousness vs. Poverity Consciousness - Controlling Positive Emotions

Prosperity consciousness versus proverty consciousness. There is a big difference between the two and your results in your financial affairs are a result of this thinking.

The difference should be pretty obvious. If you have some brief conversations with people in a very short period of time you will discover if those you are talking with speak about lack of money and are focused on the nothingness they have then they have poverity consciousness. They complain and will draw more attention on what it is they don't like and therefore attract more of it.

However, on the opposite side of the coin is prosperity consciousness! Seeing abundance at every corner, talking with those who have a bright future and have great excitement of what is coming and feeling good about money and prosperity! That is prosperity consciousness and that is how you must feel in order to attract more of it.

The lack of financial prosperity in your life feels awful to you and you are worried, even upsetting others. So now you know you have to change how you feel first. You first have to be aware that you have these negative LIMITING beliefs and are only attracting more of that. Congratulations for now being able to see that if you can only feel free of those negative thoughts and then start working on getting what you do want, instead of what you don't want.

So each day, in a quiet spot, sit by yourself and ask yourself that you want to feel prosperity consciousness. You want to relax your muscles, to breathe, and now focus yourself on what it feels like to be prosperity consciousness. Each and every day you must remind yourself and do this exercise. During the day, when you catch yourself feeling a negative emotion about lack of abundance, say a quick thank you to yourself and that you will now allow in the feeling of prosperity consciousness once again. You are allowing yourself to feel prosperity and feel the energy of abundance. Welcome the feeling, breathing in and out and relax.

By controlling how you feel about something will change dramatically your future outcomes. Just slow yourself down a bit and allow your mind to stop beating yourself up. This is all exercise in your mind, no different than exercising your muscles. After awhile, it becomes your new level of thinking and the results will show up in your results.

Stress and Frustration, How To Reduce Stress and Be Happy

Stress and frustration, how to reduce your stress and be happy. Stress is caused by the current situation you are in and you are reacting to it with a negative emotion. When one is allowing your mind to drift off and think of the consequences of your day to day life, often you can start to focus on the negative stuff and let that start to take you on a downward spiral. The trick is to re-focus on what it is you want, not what it is your current situation.

Your current situation is the now, so take stock and start to focus on the what it is you do want. Easier said than done, I agree. However, it can be done! A great tip is to remove yourself from the situation, take a break. Often, the removal of yourself allows things to cool down, and then from there you can say to yourself what it is you do want. Remember that phrase. What is it I do want!

Let's say you are in a situation where you cannot leave but you are still having the negative thoughts taking you on a downward spiral. There is several other solutions you can choose. First, you can write it down in a short phrase what happened and what it is you do want. You can release some of the pent up emotions that way too. It often is a great way to help you start to focus on what it is you want. You can draw a quick picture of what your day would look like when you have gone passed the outcome for example. After only about 20 minutes, you are done and their is a great release of emotions.

What if it is a really big problem, what then...well, if the the really big problem is still nagging at you, you can noise it out. I will put my headphones on and listen to someone else talk about creating joy and happiness. This helps remove your own thoughts in your head as you are listening. It takes effort on your part, depending on how big the problem is, but by putting positive thoughts in your head, no matter whose voice it is, it works. You cannot hear both your monkey chatter (those negative monkeys talking in your head) and the audio you are currently listening to. Sometimes, a great music CD or watch a funny movie can help, but the point is to be able to get past focusing on the problem and open yourself up to solutions. When solutions appear, you feel better. Your stomach doesn't bother you anymore and you can actually start to feel a little bit better, maybe even hungry.

I have created an audio format of 7 Steps To Happiness which is currently available for you to help you get that monkey chatter out of your head. Visit my website at http://www.7StepsToHappiness.com . I look forward to your feedback. Make yourself a great day!

Wanting Success But Don't Know Where To Start?

Wanting success but don't know where to start? I speak with lots of people who are looking for "something" to do from home but have no idea what it could be. They figure they will know it when they see it. If you have been looking for several months or even for about a year, you haven't got your heart in it.

To truly want "something" is for you to figure out first! What I mean is that decide first what is it you want. Is it the job you currently do so maybe the answer is to change jobs. Or is it the income and "not getting paid what you are worth" feeling? The first thing to do is to figure it all out. Find out what is your "why" and are you really ready to commit yourself to starting a business and treating it like a business. People start businesses everyday but have no idea about committment! Sometimes I talk with people who have been looking for months and I usually ask them how consistent have they been looking? Have they been focused on finding a business 4 or 5 days a week and discovering all that is out there with excitement and anticipation? The answer is no, they sort of look for awhile and then stop. That tells me that those people have no idea what consistency really is, they don't know how to "do" it, even when searching for something to do.

If you don't have the desire to find the right thing that is for you to do at the beginnning stages how can you expect to carry it forward throughout the coming years. It all starts with baby steps! Learning to develop better habits of what successful people do on a daily basis. I will ask them to describe some characteristics a person should have if they are to be business entrepreneurs. Some people say words like consistency and persistency. I then ask them if they have it. They tell me yes, but their actions are reflecting that they do not know how to "do". I am being honest with them and show them that they need to first be honest with themselves and start developing better habits of other successful people.

So don't sit there on the couch in your evenings and watch TV. It means taking all out action to follow through on what it is your really want, but first -- DECIDE on what it is you want.

How to figure out what you want is different for everyone. Talk with your spouse, read books or attend seminars or events which can show you. Meet business entrepreneurs and see how they discovered how to get success. I am sure you really know deep down what it is you need to do - you just have to LEARN how to do it consistently and persistently.

So now if you realize that and you still don't have a strong belief in yourself, all that may mean is that you are lacking confidence in getting there -- that is all. So start with personal development to help you get there - that is why personal development is there in the first place - to help us get to where we really want to go in life! Use it, every day, and you will get what you want and know without a doubt that you are on a path to success!

I know you will get there -- just start right now. Take baby steps to LEARN how to be, do and have, and then it will be easier for you to proceed. To Your Success -- Cheers!

Achieve Success Faster, Learn How Now.

Want to achieve success faster. Learn to "let go" of what your idea of how things work. Relax about yourself. You will feel a whole lot better and by learning how to relax you are in flow of achieving success faster.

Let's look at the other side of the coin to help you through this.

Being all stressed and uptight about things is not serving you. Constantly pushing against the things that you do not want only focuses your attention upon it, expands it and wastes your energy. Disease is the result of this negative pent up resistence. That is right. Dis-Ease. When you are not at ease with yourself, you are at dis--EASE. So learn to relax and let it out. Release is the key.

The tighter your try to hang on to something the more it slips through your grasp. Look around in your life for examples. The more you push against something the more resistence you will get.

You will find that with business partners you will go through this attachment as well. You have one point of view and they have another. Remember to be the best person you can be. Don't push or force it. It takes practice to let go. But every day you get a new chance to improve.

You will soon learn to trust your instincts and let go of controlling others and allow them to also learn in a way that best serves themselves. Your role is not to make it happen for them. Just be there showing them how to "BE" the best person one can be. By being forgiving and unattached to how things should be, and see what wonderful "new" ways it can happen.

Success happens much faster to those who expect it and not try to resist it. Relax and enjoy your life and don't be so attached to what the other person is doing. Afterall, they have to take person responsibility for themselves too.